Sunday, September 26, 2010
I've learnt in life...
not to take things so personally, because they're often not intended to be taken as so. I hope in time, everyone else will learn the same.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
a long time between drinks...
I know that I was riding around on my pet DINOSAUR when I was last regularly updating this blog with something even half readable, but I thought it can't hurt to try and start posting again. I do enjoy writing, even if the internet does have enough of it already (and I daresay I'm not adding anything of much worth to it now by doing this), but whatever, I'm allowed.
It's interesting how in finding themselves, people usually manage to push so many people away. I think the whole topic is interesting interesting because in becoming more comfortable with ourselves, the ultimate goal (in my eyes anyway) is to be able to interact better with the people around us. To love and understand others, you must learn to love and understand yourself first. It intrigues me how people seem to get it so wrong.
They just wake up one day and decide they want to be this new mature being, take on this new set of values, new look, new interests, new friends but they don't want to do the learning that comes with it. You don't find yourself in 24 hours, hell you probably never should, life is a constant search to be a better person. Be more loving, more efficient, more intelligent, more well thought out, more interesting etc.
It seems that to most people the word 'mature' just a synonym for 'I'll convince myself I'm right and mature and a good person and anyone who criticises my actions is clearly wrong, because I'm right and mature and a good person and I can do no wrong.' This is where the issues begin. To be an adult (an actual adult, not a child with an age > 18) you need to be self analytical, it 's the line that separates the men from the boys, the women from the girls. You should be at the point where when you wrong someone you know you've wronged them before they tell you. The point where you're mature enough to take critique on the chin and learn from it, the point where you don't have to win every argument.
When you get to the point in your life where you believe your opinions and actions are beyond critique, then quite frankly, you've missed the whole fucking point. You've gone full circle. You've gone back to being a child. Go back to preschool.
It's interesting how in finding themselves, people usually manage to push so many people away. I think the whole topic is interesting interesting because in becoming more comfortable with ourselves, the ultimate goal (in my eyes anyway) is to be able to interact better with the people around us. To love and understand others, you must learn to love and understand yourself first. It intrigues me how people seem to get it so wrong.
They just wake up one day and decide they want to be this new mature being, take on this new set of values, new look, new interests, new friends but they don't want to do the learning that comes with it. You don't find yourself in 24 hours, hell you probably never should, life is a constant search to be a better person. Be more loving, more efficient, more intelligent, more well thought out, more interesting etc.
It seems that to most people the word 'mature' just a synonym for 'I'll convince myself I'm right and mature and a good person and anyone who criticises my actions is clearly wrong, because I'm right and mature and a good person and I can do no wrong.' This is where the issues begin. To be an adult (an actual adult, not a child with an age > 18) you need to be self analytical, it 's the line that separates the men from the boys, the women from the girls. You should be at the point where when you wrong someone you know you've wronged them before they tell you. The point where you're mature enough to take critique on the chin and learn from it, the point where you don't have to win every argument.
When you get to the point in your life where you believe your opinions and actions are beyond critique, then quite frankly, you've missed the whole fucking point. You've gone full circle. You've gone back to being a child. Go back to preschool.
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